In Just 12 Steps


of your husband’s actions completely overwhelming?

Are you embarrassed and feeling isolated because no one else seems to understand what you’re going through?

Do you wonder if you’ll ever be able to trust your husband (or yourself . . . or GOD) again?

 Not only have I helped numerous clients deal with their own
damaged marriages, but I, myself, recovered from my own
husband’s sexual betrayal . . .


my husband had sexually betrayed me, I was desperate to save our marriage. I spoke with family and friends, as well as my pastor, none of whom could convince my husband to change his behavior or were able counsel the two of us on how to heal our relationship.

No one was qualified or knew how to actually help us.


was turning to a Christian counselor who I hoped would give me tips and an actionable plan, to not only repair our marriage, but also help me emotionally recover from this trauma. 


 Nowhere could I find the support, advice, and guidance I was seeking.

I left our first session feeling confused, hopeless, and lost. I was completely alone, trying to navigate my own recovery. Eventually, I did recover; I was able to return to a place where I felt GOD’s love restore my peace and contentment with life.

my mission became to guide other women through their own recovery process. To give them the support, tools, and advice I had to find alone. To help them restore trust in themselves, save their marriages, and increase their faith in GOD.

in my private practice and am happy to announce a way for you to receive the same guidance and results as my one-on-one clients.


In 12 Weeks

You can gain the tools you need to heal from the loss, unfairness, and humiliation of your husband’s actions. Get the guidance you need to move from pain and sadness to trust and hope.

Learn to recognize your emotions and understand the 4 stages of healing

Begin differentiating between safe and unsafe people, so that you are surrounded by caring and supportive allies

Open yourself up to receiving GOD’s love, despite having to go through this painful experience

Understand the 5 stages of grief and what you may be mourning beyond “just” your marriage

Recognize if you are trying to fix your husband, with or without his interest in changing

Learn to trust GOD’s plan for you and anchor your hope in a more positive future

Learn the 10 ways you may be expressing your anger and what your pattern and triggers are

Discover healthy ways to deal with your anger (towards your husband, yourself, and anyone else)

Put an end to the repetitive thoughts and behaviors that sabotage your healing

Understand how to calmly and rationally assess and discuss your husband’s sexual sin

Learn the indicators of a repentant and willing heart, so you’re able to discern his genuine interest in repairing your marriage and changing his behavior

Gain confidence in your ability to objectively understand and process your husband’s choices

Understand the cause and purpose of depression in your healing journey and when it may be time to seek individual help

Know how to STOP your negative thoughts so you don’t spiral out-of-control

Find comfort in GOD while using practical strategies to help you pull yourself out of depression

Learn why your relationship needs boundaries in order to be healthy and how to confidently assert them without guilt or shame

Discover the 4 areas of your relationship that need boundaries

Establish a safe space for yourself emotionally, relationally, and spiritually, based on who GOD has called you to be

Understand how fear is affecting your relationships with your husband, children, and GOD

Uncover the fears that are hidden inside your heart so you can begin courageously taking control over your anxious thoughts

Learn to place your trust in GOD so he can deliver you from your fears and restore your strength

Learn the possible causes and triggers of your husband’s sexual sin

Free yourself from taking responsibility for or feeling guilt over your husband’s choices

Let go of your attempts to control your husband’s behavior, in favor of him being responsible for himself

Let go of your need to understand WHY your husband sexually betrayed you

Learn to surrender you pain, loss, and bitterness so you remain focused on your own healing

Accept the joy and hope that comes from freeing yourself of the need for justice and retribution

Understand that forgiveness does NOT mean justifying or minimizing your husband’s mistakes

Free yourself from dwelling on his actions, and learn to recognize if you’ve really forgiven your husband

Use forgiveness to restore your relationship with GOD and return to a sense of wellbeing

Understand the difference between trust and forgiveness and how your husband’s changed behavior rebuilds trust

Consciously maintain your boundaries for your own protection, while allowing the opportunity to rebuild trust

Restore your trust in yourself and GOD so you can allow yourself to feel like a priceless treasure

Recognize your value in the eyes of GOD, knowing that He loves you as you are

Appreciate and acknowledge the healing that has occurred during your journey

Commit to depending on GOD for security in your future, directing your life, and feeling fulfilled with your meaning and purpose


Click here to take the first step towards healing.


Click here to take the first step towards healing.

Your constant reminder that GOD would not forsake me and would be with me no matter what is what gave me the confidence to work through my husband’s sexual betrayal. You provided me a safe harbor for me to deal with my emotions and opened my eyes to the possibilities of what my life could be like in the future.

— Satisfied Client

I felt trapped in my marriage. I needed to talk to someone who understood the seriousness of my situation, and could show me GOD’s heart on pornography and sexual betrayal. You helped me understand my emotions and guided me in the right direction so that I could find peace as I prepared for my recovery.

— Satisfied Client

We get started October 25th!

We get started October 25th!


Live weekly group calls, recorded so you can listen again later (12 total)

Accompanying worksheets for each call to help you take notes and further your understanding of that week’s topic

Copies of my Emotion Wheel, Power and Control Wheel, and Fear Dance handouts to help you deal with specific issues you face

Access to a private Facebook community for added support and camaraderie

 In addition to everything included in the Group Program you will also receive:

Six 50-minute 1-on-1 phone or video call sessions with Carol to address specific challenges and customize a plan for your recovery

Six 10-minute support calls between sessions to maintain your confidence and momentum

Carol Erb has courageously traveled the road before you and she is a qualified guide you can trust. She knows how to offer direction, encouragement and hope. Carol is someone you will want to have by your side.

— Renny Deese, NC Attorney and Board Certified Specialist in Family Law

Carol provides a powerful combination of personal experience and professional wisdom. Carol lived it, so she gets it. She will help you get through your crisis and live the life GOD has planned for you.

— Dr. David Clarke – Christian psychologist and author of “I Don’t Love You Anymore.”


Perhaps you couldhad to, but I desperately wished for supportive, understanding, and experienced guidance the whole time. After years of helping other women deal with sexual betrayal in their marriages, I know this process works and enables women


Perhaps you couldhad to, but I desperately wished for supportive, understanding, and experienced guidance the whole time. After years of helping other women deal with sexual betrayal in their marriages, I know this process works and enables women

To move forward with their lives

(And much quicker than if it’s done alone!)

If you are longing to surround yourself with other women who understand your story without fear of judgment or ridiculeyou will find that here. Or, if the idea of sharing your story while sitting face-to-face with a support person fills you with fear and embarrassment, you will find the privacy and solitude you crave here, while still getting the experienced help you need.



As additional tools for your path to recovery, you’ll receive:



As additional tools for your path to recovery, you’ll receive:

Soothing instrumental music and Scripture selected for you to help with rest and relaxation

A digitally signed copy of my book, Enveloped, the story of my own marriage journey

A customized temperament assessment, designed to help you better understand yourself and to identify your individual needs


Enroll now for $97!

$97/mo for 12 months


I am confident that The Pathway from Betrayal to Healing will change your life.

It will give you the best chance to save your marriage and help you  confidently and peacefully begin healing and move on into the future.

If you listen to all 12 calls and email each completed worksheet to me no later than Jan. 24, 2017 (one week after our final call), and feel you haven’t been given the tools, support, and information you need to recover from your husband’s sexual betrayal, I will refund your full purchase price, no questions asked.

The pain, confusion, and loneliness you feel now doesn’t have to be permanent!


how your husband could have done this to you (and how GOD could have allowed it!) I understand your humiliation. I know you worry about the impact of your marriage on your children (if applicable).

I also know you can come out the other side of this painful experience by offering you the best chance to save your marriage, and help you heal and move on with hope for the future.

I’ve helped dozens of other women do it too.

Join me and a fellow group of women going through the same process as you. Together, you will find the contentment and joy you deserve.



Click here to join us!

$97/mo for 12 months




When does your group program start?

It begins Oct. 25, 2016.

How long will it take me to get through your program?

Like anything you pour your heart and soul into the more you invest emotionally, relationally and spiritually, the more you’ll get out it. So it depends on whether or not you participate in the Betrayal to Healing Facebook Group, (which is optional); if you complete every Discovery Sheet, read the additional handouts, listen to your SoulCare Rx audios or whether or not you choose to participate in the live 12- week program or complete the program at your own pace, in your own time. Make no mistake, healing from sexual betrayal is intense, takes time and is physically and emotionally demanding yet deeply rewarding. We understand your life is chaotic right now, so with the tools, resources and support you will receive you will be given what it takes to begin your healing.  We estimate on average it will take 1-3 hours of your time per week.

Do you offer a payment plan?


The Betrayal to Healing Group Program payment plan is $97/mo for 12 months. 

The Betrayal to Healing VIP Mastery payment plan is $727/mo for 3 months. 

What happens if I miss a weekly group call?

We understand that life can get busy and we hope you won’t miss a live group call.  But you don’t have to worry about missing a session because all the materials will be there for you for as long as you need them. If you can’t make a live group call, we’ll record it for you. Each session’s content is available online. It’s also downloadable to your computer and viewable on your mobile device. This includes all replays, Discovery Sheets, handouts, and bonus materials which are located in your Betrayal to Healing Members area.

Will the Betrayal to Healing Group program work for me?

Yes and No. We are confident you can come out the other side of this painful experience with peace, trust in yourself and others, and hope for the future. I did it myself. I’ve helped dozens of other women do it too. This program is not for women who want a quick fix and expect all their pain to disappear forever in 12- weeks. Please do not sign up if you are clinically depressed, suicidal, have addictions or have a mental health disorder diagnosis that hasn’t been treated. Understanding this is not a mental health counseling program rather it is a program for coaching you and teaching you how to navigate the challenges of sexual betrayal in marriage and come out happy and whole again.

Will I get a one-on-one coaching with Carol?

You can. In addition to the Betrayal to Healing group coaching program, Carol is offering the Betrayal to Healing VIP Mastery.  You have the option to upgrade to the VIP level and receive six one-on-one 50-min.  phone or video call sessions to address specific challenges and customize a plan for your recovery. Plus six 10-min. support calls in-between sessions to maintain your confidence and momentum.

Will I get access to the program all at once?

No. The Betrayal to Healing program has been created based on the stages of healing so you move through each weekly session and the complementary Discovery Sheets and handouts, in order.  This program is designed to be followed in sequence.  It may not be right for you’re the type of person who likes to “push the fast-forward button” and move ahead of your group members. Understanding once you complete the Betrayal to Healing program, you can cover each session as often as you wish remembering you get lifetime access.

How much time do I have to decide to enroll in Betrayal to Healing?

The enrollment period for Betrayal to Healing is from Oct. 4 through Oct. 13.  Otherwise the next group program for Betrayal to Healing will begin in the spring of 2017.

Will I be able to connect with group members?

Yes. You will have the opportunity to form connections with other women through the Facebook private community. In fact we encourage you to do so, but you it is entirely up to you.

Do you have a refund policy?

Yes. I am devoted to helping you begin healing from sexual betrayal in marriage. If you do the work and don’t feel I’ve delivered on my promise, I’ll happily refund 100% of your money.

Note: To be eligible for a refund, I require that you complete the program, show me your work one week after the end of the program and if you’re not satisfied with the results I’ll happily give you 100% of your money.  If you listen to all 12 calls and email each completed worksheet to me no later than Jan. 24th (one week after our final call), and feel you haven’t been given the tools, support, and information you need to recover from your husband’s sexual betrayal, I will refund your full purchase price, no questions asked.

I’m looking for women who are serious and committed to embark on their healing journey. I am passionate about helping you live the life God has planned for you.